#im allowed to want to feel like im wanted. im allowed to want ppl to care abt me. that shouldnt be too much to ask for

[kirabethstar]

jujutsu kaisen 151, on what maki said

alright ive been forced to come back to this hell site to make this post because i cannot take this maki top energy slander

i want to talk about this panel here, which specifically i’ve seen these two variations of translations from (left is VIZ and right is TCB scans):

while both of these translations are technically correct, the original japanese  says “抱いてやるよ” (daite yaru yo)

抱く (daku) technically means to hug, and it’s conjugated w/ やる (yaru) which means that the action is being done as a favor for someone. another way to conjugate this verb for a similar meaning is あげる (ageru), but yaru is less polite and more condescending (especially in this context). the tone of the sentence is very 上から目線 (“from a high perspective”), meaning that maki is definitely talking down (quite strongly) on naoya; and i think this does come through from both of the english translations pictured above.

but now the part that drove jp twt crazy. 

while 抱く(daku) does technically mean hug/embrace/hold, it can also be understood in a sexual way: specifically, to top (i swear i am not making this up LOL) 抱く(daku) means you are topping, and 抱かれる (dakareru) means you are bottoming — so essentially what maki is saying can also be interpreted as  “i’ll top you (as a favor)”

now, i know this initially seems really out of place in english, but it actually makes a lot of sense given the history of their relationship and naoya’s personality in particular. we all know that naoya has been sexist af and spewing nonsense like women should always walk 3 steps behind men etc. so in some way, reverting that typical male/female dynamic is actually a really great taunt — it’s VERY insulting to naoya’s fragile masculinity lol some ppl have even gone as far as to guess that perhaps its a line that naoya/others have said to maki before (maybe under the context that she has no value except to serve men — but ofc this is all just speculation), and now maki is throwing it back right at him to, quite literally, establish dominance. bottom line is that I don’t think she meant it literally but the reversal of dynamic that the line implies seems pretty obvious and makes a lot of sense as a double meaning addition to the line.

i also saw some of jp twt talking about comparisons with this panel from the manga “kenya kagyou” (disclaimer: i’ve never read this manga; akutami gege references other works in jjk all the time so ppl were guessing this was the manga being referenced here). one character used the exact same form of “shiranui-gata” in sumo and he said “dakishimete yaru,” which usually means “hug tightly”; but here the play on words is instead on the verb “shimeru,” which can also mean to strangle.

anyways, i guess what i’m trying to say is akutami gege could’ve kept this line/used similar variations of it to convey the same “i will hug you (threatening),” but instead chose to use “daite yaru yo.” this specific combination of words really is quite often sexual (i think a good comparison for the degree of sexual connotation is the phrase “netflix and chill” — where yes, it could also mean actually only netflix and chill, but most ppl, even if they dont mean it, are at least aware of the sexual connotation). gege has a history of playing with double meanings a lot (stuff like sukuna’s “魅せてみろ” or “去ね”), so do what you will with that info lol sumo is also a sport in which women are traditionally banned from competing in, so maki taking on this pose w/ the line fits well with the subverting gender roles theme that’s going on as a big “screw you” at naoya 

in conclusion akutami gege said maki tops yall

[pepprs]

ppl are being so fucking mean in the notes of this one wc post abt the new excerpt like. don’t get me wrong i think redacted is a deeply flawed character and i share everyone’s anger and frustration in his storyline being so badly written and lazily thought out and a perfect example of the misogyny in wc like that’s part of why i stopped reading the books bc they kind of fucking suck. but ppl in the notes are saying he’s a loser and should die over… resenting that he is the last person picked for the team? like is that not a universal experience. have we not all been through that. idk. like i know that’s not the most important aspect of this conversation and at the end of the day it’s a fictional character but also it’s like… lol

[yearning-gay]

i love having an unconventional gender identity but sometimes having the right word for it would be kinda sexy admittedly lol

[nyanryan]

if you do acid twice you will stop caring about shipping discourse. this Is a suggestion btw. a recommendation maybe. i do not think weird ppl writing weird stories on an obscure website is an actual problem that effects the real world. ❤️

[whumpshaped]

Jshdfjfhhd… a whumpee that loathes vulnerability and kindness, and that is the personification of that quote from that book I’ve read that’s sorta like “some people break and put themselves back together with all the sharp edges pointing outward” vs caregiver who finds them and goes “oh shit, you need a home, don’t you? No shh I know you need a home, cmon, stop trying to bite me.”

Whumpee is sorta like a feral chihuahua… caretaker feeds them soup and watches cartoons and chatters amicably, and insists that they’re gonna keep being nice no matter what whumpee does, but that if it’s too much whumpee can always leave or go to be alone in their room. Whumpee, feral, glaring at caretaker and still trying to snipe at caretaker but not going to their own room anyways. This dynamic my beloved ~🐸

i LOVE that dynamic. feral whumpees my beloved...

the whumpee in my prompt that i had in mind is not quite like that. they havent been hurt before. they didnt have to put themself back together, they were just Like That from the beginning. kindness is weakness. saying please and thank you is embarrassing. not being able to stop someone from doing smth u dont like through sheer force and intimidation and having to ask them nicely? humiliating. and if they dont stop even then, how dare they? that was the last lifeline whumpee had, they showed vulnerability by asking so sincerely, what else could they possibly do?

[nicodaws]

having a lil crisis at 1:30 in the am. as is tradition.

[angel-archivist]

Exclusionist cis women will be like: I HATE men, unless your a cis gay man who also hates transgender people and hates ace people and hates the word queer then your just like us and i will uplift your voice, theheh cis-olidarity,  They/them pronouns are misogynistic 🥰🥰

[opens-up-4-nobody]

...

[silly-ehggy]

Im gonna cry therez so many ppl who don't have dni listz so I don't know if I'm allowed 2 interact with them and if I do interact and they think I shouldn't have im gonna feel bad abt it and if I don't ill also feel bad bcuz the stuff I see lookz so cool but if I don't know if these people are ok with me interacting with me or not im not sure if it'll b ok and I go down this do I or do I not spiral and AAAAAAAAAA AAHUEH HEUG HUHU UUUHHRHEUGH UEUE *sob ing* eee.... :((((

[hyp3rfixation-h3ll]

this started out bc i wanted to draw mystery in bear themed jammas that i hc she has bc of beartaur and THEN i found out that the strawberry dress came in black so you all get a 2 for 1 special where i draw mystery in cute outfits bc she deserves them for being a girlboss and i love her and think she’s cute :]

also the work that beartaur (the blue text) is referring to is her job as the key-per lmao (key keeper = key-per <3 im funny. laugh /j)

[avatardoggo]

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[pepprs]

literally for so many reasons i should not do this program tomorrow but explaining why i can’t would be so embarrassing but also i really shouldn’t. lol

[lycanr0t]

Hey reminder that you do NOT get to decide another person's gender.

You do not get to decide if they're cis or not.

You do not get to decide that they're secretly trans or are trans but don't know it yet.

You can have suspicions but you DO NOT get to decide for them. You have no right making that decision for another person.

If someone says they're trans, then they're trans.

If someone says they're CIS, then they are cis.

If a cis person wants to go on hormones or get surgeries or otherwise present differently than expected then that DOESN'T inherently mean they are trans.

We NEED to stop deciding other people's genders for them.

If you agree that cis people can present however the fuck they want without being trans, then you need to accept that there WILL be people who are cis who medically transition that are not trans.

And maybe they later find out they are trans, or maybe they are comfortable being cis forever. But do not assume or expect that they will later identify as trans. Respect them and their gender NOW.

I know the whole concept of trans eggs is popular right now but seriously we need to not assign identities to other people for them. Believe people when they tell you their identity, even if you personally don't get it.

let trans people transition or not transition however the fuck they want.

let cis people transition or not transition however the fuck they want.

stop assigning people labels based on what you think is right for them. it's rude and creepy and they know themselves better than you know them.

You can decide what labels to use for yourself, but YOU DO NOT GET TO DECIDE THAT FOR ANYONE ELSE.

[gibbearish]

hi i’m not really sure how to do this but i came from your uquiz and you seem knowledgeable and nice and so i’m asking you a question now i’m sorry

uhm, so, i think i maybe might be trans (ftm) because i’m super dysphoric and i sometimes look at guys and i get really jealous because they just get to, like, exist like that (i’m not really sure what the “that” is, but god, do i want it) and i very much don’t and when i refer to myself using he/him pronouns in my head it feels, uhm, at the risk of being a cliche, right, i guess.

but the thing is that i don’t really fit into any of the stereotypical trans guy things. like a lot of my friends when i was little were girls and though i have some stereotypically masculine hobbies (sports and physics) i also sew, and when i was little i was obsessed with being a princess for like a month before i started refusing to wear dresses.

i don’t think i’m non-binary, i tried using they/them pronouns this summer and while they didn’t actively hurt like she does, they didn’t really feel right.

so, like, am i lying to myself? i don’t know, maybe i just want to be special (i don’t want it, though, if i could just be happy as a girl i would).

sorry i just unloaded half an essay on you you obviously don’t have to reply and i know you’re probably not qualified to answer anyway, i just needed to tell someone, you know?

anyways, i hope you’re having a nice night or day or whatever. thank you, for, like, existing on the internet i guess. your quiz was very nice. bye.

howdy anon! dw i am always glad to answer questions abt this stuff even tho it make take me a while lol

my best advice for situations like this is i know its easy but don't let yourself get caught up in the trap of "well this is the label that makes me feel best but i dont technically check off every single box for it so am i just lying?" people arent video game quests, you dont have to hit every single box for it to count, youre allowed to have stuff fall outside the technical definition of a term while still calling yourself it. im very similar to you, i was in tap and ballet growing up, wore dresses and makeup for most of highschool, sewing crocheting knitting the whole shebang. but the important part is that none of those things make a difference to your identity. knowing how to sew doesnt make you a girl, it can just make you a guy who knows how to sew. its a thing you do, not who you are.

all that being said, i think another helpful angle to look at things is "does the distinction between two similar labels actually make a difference to me?" using myself as an example again, i dont call myself a trans man because while i do prefer presenting masculine, for some reason the term 'man' just doesnt feel right for me. but at the same time, to the rest of the world that's functionally what i am, right? so does that change /who/ i am? no. so for me personally, ive deliberately chosen not to file myself into either "trans man" or "nonbinary" and just move on with my day, because to me it doesnt actually make a difference which one i am, im still gonna stay on t, i still want top surgery, i still want to be perceived masculine, and thats not gonna change no matter what name is on the box so who gives a shit. just do what makes you happy

[early20sfailingplenty]

I HAD A DREAM WHICH INVOLVED MY HAIR BEING CUT OFF.

It was so vivid I felt the scissors against my skin, heard them snip, felt the hair fall... nope nope NOPE

😰😰😰

I snapped awake and immediately ran a hand down my braid and felt relaxed as soon as the full length ran through my hand omg please nu-uh I don't even like getting it trimmed, let alone cut off like that.

Been there, done that so many times in the past when I didn't wanna be so as a result I'm incredibly protective - overly, honestly - of my hair. I get scared that one day someone will assault me by cutting it off without my consent so that nightmare was a bit too visceral... mmmm nope.

😰😰😰

[maleloli]

i think im probably good in small quantities